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I Was Once Jealous of My Friend

Who remembers the story of Cain and Abel? It can be found in the book of Genesis (4) in the Bible. Cain was jealous of his brother Abel because God accepted Abel’s offerings, but often rejected that of Cain. When Cain asked God the reason for His partiality, God answered: “Why are you angry and why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted?” When we think about jealousy, we usually associate it with people who are ‘horrible.’ But all of us at a particular point or phase in our lives, have been jealous of someone else. It could be their success, their family, their relationship, and so on. I know this because I have been jealous. Yes, I have. And I have been jealou

Dirty John: The Truth about Toxic Relationships

I watched a true crime series (Dirty John) on Netflix recently, and I was left in awe. I kept on screaming at my television screen. Anyone who knows me, knows that I love watching true crime documentaries—The ID channel is my best friend. I think I should have been an investigative journalist or detective. Well, enough about me. Dirty John recounts a story about a woman, in her late 50’s who came in contact with a guy named John, on a dating website. Things moved by so quickly between them that they moved in together. John told her countless lies, about himself, his profession, and just life in general. There was no truth in him. Just so I don’t give much of the story away, I am going to div

Situationships: Our Little Dysfunction (Pt.4)

Jidenna and I continued our situationship; he always stopped by to see me on his way to or from work. He traveled a lot for work, so when he broke his trip, he used that as an opportunity to see me. But nothing was defined between us, I wanted more but wasn’t bold enough to ask for what I needed from him. We will often hook up, and then I wouldn’t hear again from him for weeks. I was tired of the vicious cycle but still did not want to be alone. Half bread is better than none; right? In the midst of all of that, Peter started calling me to ask for forgiveness. Apparently, he had gotten an epiphany and realized he didn’t treat me right. Read Part 3 Here Image courtesy of Raw Pixels I had to s

Acts of Kindness

Kindness is a language everyone understands It’s been a while since I wrote an article for Thrive Global, it feels good to be back. When I saw this week’s assignment, I decided to jump on it because there is this gesture, someone did for me, in my lowest point, nine years ago, that I haven’t forgotten till this day. Kindness is a language everyone on the planet understands. When you show love to people, through acts of kindness, it reaches down to their soul and resonates with the core of who they are. Acts of kindness could be anything from a smile, to holding the door open for someone or helping a person who is in need. The phrase “good samaritan” was generated from an act of kindness a Sa

Struggle Love

The very popular Day of Saint Valentine has come and has gone. But the spirit of love should not. I continue to strive to exercise love ever

Struggle Love

You Deserve Better The very popular Day of Saint Valentine has come and has gone. But the spirit of love should not. I continue to strive to exercise love every day as we all should – easier said than done, but we should try all the same. Love can be such a beautiful thing; love towards family, towards friends, towards significant others, towards SELF, etc. It can also be very broad so for this post; we will focus on love in relationships with significant others. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs." Show of ha

Situationships: My Erratic Behavior (Pt.3)

The Girl Who Didn't Like to Be Alone I returned to my little city, heartbroken and distraught. ‘I keep failing at this attempt to be in a relationship, did my college boyfriend place a curse on me for breaking his heart?’ I thought to myself. Not too long after that, I went to my millionaire matchmaker aka, Tosin. Tosin do you have any guy for me? Hook me up na! I always disturbed her. I was a sucker for love; I didn’t like being alone. One day, she responded with some hope: ‘actually I have a guy oh, his name is Peter, he is an engineer, and he shuttles between Houston and Denver.’ Sure! Hook me up! I was excited about this opportunity, the guy was fine, and I couldn’t wait for the day that

Can Men & Women Just Be Friends?

Can men and women just be friends? My simple take on this is no. If we are talking heterosexual humans of the opposite sex, NO. Wait now, hang on a minute and see where I am going with this. I may be wrong though, but from experience and observations, they just can’t be simple friends, and I do hope at the end of this read, you can see with me or share why your views are contrary to mine. Image courtesy of Unsplash To form any relationship outside the ones we are born into (family that is), there is some sort of an attraction, some reason, a motive. Something draws you to that person. It could be their take on life, their joie de vivre (excitement about life), their connections or resources,

5 Lessons I learned From Past Relationships

February is the month of love, and we are taking full advantage of this opportunity to amp up our relationship segment of the website. So be sure always to check it out, to enjoy the amazing content we have published for you. Relationships are exciting to talk about because we were created as relational beings. Being able to join your life romantically with another person, is something most people want to hear about. But there is the not so glamorous side about this love journey as well, which most people have experienced. It may come from ignoring red flags to settling, to not valuing yourself and the list can be endless. I have had my fair share of relationship woes, and I will like to sha

Situationships: The Fleet of Men (Pt.2)

For someone, who has only had three serious relationships, I have always had a lot of men chase after me, in one way or the other. When I made it to Nigeria in 2012, I wasn’t expecting to meet anyone, let alone three people, but it happened, at my cousin's wedding and they were all his friends. Read Part 1 Here Image courtesy of Unsplash The Borrower So I met Shola at my cousin's wedding, and he was immediately smitten with me. He asked for my phone number, and never left my side during the nuptials. I wanted to be free and explore other options, but this guy was territorial. Although it didn’t stop me from noticing the best man, UK guy. UK guy was good looking and had a nice body. I wanted

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