Wisdom Weekly: Beware of "Well-meaning" People

Updated: Nov 3

Written by Evi Idoghor, creator of Letstalknationblog.com

What is this all about? You might ask, well-meaning people are people who typically appear to mean good for you, especially when it seems you are stuck in a rot, and they offer all sorts of unsolicited advice to get you out; but watch out, the enemy might just be using them to bring about his agenda. Now, this is not to say that these people are evil and want to see you fail, that is not the point of this matter at hand. In fact, they themselves do not know that they are being used by the enemy to coerce you into stepping out of God’s will for your life.

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I remember when I was about to come home to Nigeria in 2017, and how many people told me not to do it. “How are you going to get back into the US? What if they don’t let you back in?” they asked with concerned looks on their faces. The immigration issue in the US was a hot topic, as people were being refused visas or deported for various reasons. I heard horror stories about this new reality which came with the newly elected president and I was scared out of my mind.

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There was a period of time I was out of status, and I knew there was a possibility for that to come back and bite me in the butt if I ventured out of the country. But I had a longing to go home. I cried out to God daily for a resolution, but He kept telling me—I know the plans I have for you, go home.

I couldn’t really explain to these well-meaning people that God wanted me to go home and would have everything sorted, so I just did anyway. Fast-forward to about a month later, when it was time for me to return to my little apartment in my tiny city, I got deported; right from Hartsfield-Jackson international airport in Atlanta, what I dreaded the most became my reality.

Maybe these well-meaning people were right all along, but looking back almost three years after the dreadful incident, I said to myself the other day; “getting deported was the best thing that ever happened to me.” Yeah such a strong statement to make, but if you know my story, and compare where I am now, to where I was in 2016/2017, my life is certainly not the same, I now fully understand why God said to me—“I know the plans I have for you.”

Now another group of well-meaning people, who believe that I would have a better life, outside of God’s plans, have been asking me about moving again—no Satan, I can recognize you in their voices, and I am not stepping out of God’s will for my life. 

I am not the only one who has experienced well-meaning people, Jesus did too. You see when the enemy wants to come against you; he doesn’t go all the way out, all the time. He creeps in like a snake and begins to sow seeds of doubt and unbelief in your heart, through those closest to you. And you must be quick to recognize his schemes, just as Christ did, and rebuke him.

In Matthew chapter 16, Jesus went from praising Peter for speaking by the power of the Holy Spirit about who Christ really was, to rebuking him when he said some well-meaning things to Him. Jesus was in a tough place; He was about to be crucified and was already grappling with the fact he had to go to the cross. Then in verse 23, after He had revealed to His followers all the things He was about to suffer, Peter took Him (Jesus) aside and began to rebuke Him, as if to say—those things which you speak off, are not right and you will not go through them.

But Jesus, who was always full of the Spirit, was quick to recognize that it wasn’t Peter speaking, but the devil who didn’t want Him to save you and me. He said to him—“get behind me, Satan! You are an offense to me.” If Jesus did not know that it was the enemy speaking, maybe He would never had made it to the cross to fulfill His purpose. Sometimes we mix the two up—if someone is making my life difficult then it must be the devil, and if someone is telling me things I want to hear, then it must be God.

But it doesn’t always happen that way, that is why we should be discerning. At the airport in Atlanta, when I was pleading my case, there was this African American woman who kept on blocking everything I was saying, to convince even her boss to let me in. There was a time her boss’s mind softened up, and she said, she was not going to let me in regardless. Now at the time, I thought it was the devil; I’m like which kind wahala be this? But it was God all along. If they had let me in, I honestly cannot tell you where my life would be at this moment. But God used that annoying woman to accomplish His purpose for my life.

Another well-meaning person was Job’s wife. After all the heartache they had been through together, and then she witnessing her husband waste away before her very eyes, she spoke to him saying—“curse God and die!” Now if Job had listened to her, the blessings which they received, in the end, would never have come to be.

But he persevered even through the most difficult of circumstances, and came out on the other side, with not just the blessings, but with a better understanding of who God was. Now if God only came to us through easy situations, none of our lives would be refined. Complacency would be our number one purpose killer; but just like any good parent, He knows that if He doesn’t force us out of certain situations, we will never become who He destined for us to be.

So where are you now? What mountain are you facing? What are those closest to you whispering in your ears? Do they line up with God’s blueprint for your life? Sometimes His blueprint seems difficult, in fact, the Bible says “enter by the narrow gate” you know that gate where you have to squeeze through, get rid of some baggage along the way, so you can get through; because “wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it.” If it doesn’t seem easy, it doesn’t mean it’s not God.

One person in the bible, who gave into his well-meaning person, was the young man of God, who we have spoken about here before. God had told him to deliver a message to a king, about judgment and not to eat, drink or sleep in that city, or even go back the same way he came until he got back to his destination after the delivery. On his way, he met an old prophet, who pulled the same trick the serpent pulled on Eve in the beginning.

He deceived the young man of God to eat and drink at his place, even after the man had told him what God had specifically instructed him. This young man obliged, and the funny thing was that God now spoke through the old man who had previously deceived him and brought judgment upon him. The young man was killed by a lion on his way. This just goes to show that one person can be used by God and the enemy, just as it was with the case of Peter, it is now left to us to keep sentiments aside and decipher who is really speaking at a particular moment, so we don’t miss out on what God wants to accomplish through us.

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About The Author: Evi Idoghor is a Christian, writer, and content creator on Letstalknationblog.com. She is a chemical engineering graduate from the University of Louisiana at Lafayette. Consumed by her love for writing and desire to effect change, she launched her online platform––Let’s Talk Nation––to tap into her creativity and start meaningful conversations that would make a difference around the world.

Most of her writing has been influenced by her time spent in America, where she lived for about 11 years. Also, she lived in Nigeria and South Korea and currently loves traveling the world while learning about other fascinating cultures. You can find her on all social media platforms with @eviidoghor.

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