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A Letter to My 25-year-old Self

Updated: Jan 7, 2021

Girl! How are you doing? If you knew what was ahead of you, you wouldn’t fret so much. Your future is bright, amazing, and fruitful. God has great things in store for you, only if you will open up yourself more and yield to His plans for your life. Let go of the idea of what you think your life will be.

Me on my 25th birthday

You are not going to be married at 25, to an engineer who lives in Houston so that you can be closer to your friends. You are not going to work as an Engineer for all those prestigious companies, you so dream of. The current guy you are dating isn’t going to become your husband; (darn! Those “nots” were a lot) in fact you are going to get your heart broken in such a way that it will change your entire perspective on not only relationships but life in general.

But there is good news; that experience will lead you back to God, just like the prodigal son, which will cause you to become on fire for God, and abandon all those things which seem to be taking up your time right now.

You are no longer going to be defined by your degree, your looks, or if you are in a relationship or not, because God is going to strip you off those inferiority complexes, you suffer. You are going to become responsible and learn how to fend for yourself. Remember when your mother spoke these words to your friend in 2008—“make sure Evi goes back to Nigeria,” and you always fought it? That would soon become your reality, and there will be absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Remember when God spoke-“For I know the plans that I have for you?” Yea, he was also talking about Nigeria. But not to worry, there you will discover your purpose; don’t be afraid of this young woman,  it is going to be one of the best things that ever happened to you; it is all a part of His plan.

You are going to go through that dreaded NYSC process you so despise, although the experience wouldn’t be half as bad. Don’t let your fears stop you. The path which people think you are going to follow isn’t the one God has designed for you. Be sure to follow his leading; do not let people stop you from becoming who God has destined for you to be. If you follow God’s direction, it will lead you to launch an online platform, ( which will be loaded with articles and stories; full of wisdom and insight, transforming people’s lives as you go along the way.

Your stories are even going to be featured on top platforms like; you remember Bellanaija? The website you always used to visit, as soon as you got up in the morning! Yes! They will have a series written by you, that will cause people to be interested in your love life. Don’t worry about how you will accomplish this as well; God will be with you at all times. You will also land your first paying job in Nigeria after you are done with your service, so don’t worry about the short season of unemployment that is staring at you in the face right now. Your future is bright.


Almost 31-year-old me.


If someone had told me these things when I was 25, maybe I wouldn’t have worried or feared so much about how my life was going to pan out. We spend most of our time, planning, scheming, and plotting what we think would be the best life, for ourselves, but it is totally different from what God has in store for us. His ways are not our ways; neither does he think or reason the way we do. I thought I was going to be an Engineer, or at least get married to one in the US, so I could live a comfortable life, not having a care in the world, but that wasn’t what God designed for me.

Instead, he designed a life full of purpose, and it had nothing to do with the United States. In fact, when my mother spoke those words to my friend, I was worried, because I did not want to move back to Nigeria. It was as if she was instructing me because she knew she wouldn’t be here to enforce it. Later on, when things weren’t really working out, my friend suggested maybe I'd listen to what my mom said and go back home, and I got so upset. But nine years after she spoke those words, I found myself back home, trying to figure my life out.

I wouldn’t say I have arrived or accomplished everything God has set out for me, but I know I am well on my way, and I’m excited for what this new year would bring for me, as I turn 31, in a few days. I am so grateful that even amid all the detours, I have gone through in life, God was in the midst of it all, and I have somehow found my way, to the place He has prepared for me. I guess the lesson in all of this, is not to worry about tomorrow, trust God’s guidance and enjoy the journey as you go along!

What advice would you give to your younger self? Leave your comments below, also remember to like, share and subscribe, never to miss an update on Let’s Talk Nation.

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About The Author: Evi Idoghor is a Christian, writer, and content creator on She is a chemical engineering graduate from the University of Louisiana at Lafayette. Consumed by her love for writing and desire to effect change, she launched her online platform––Let’s Talk Nation––to tap into her creativity and start meaningful conversations that would make a difference around the world.

Most of her writing has been influenced by her time spent in America, where she lived for about 11 years. Also, she lived in Nigeria and South Korea and currently loves traveling the world while learning about other fascinating cultures. You can find her on all social media platforms with @eviidoghor.

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