"There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends." Jesus
In the spirit of Valentine, I wanted to take time out and talk about the Love of God through Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages. Everyone may have heard about the five love languages in one way or the other. Some people have read the book by author Gary Chapman, or some others like me, have just heard about it through people and blog posts. Gary Chapman in his book proposes that there are 5 different ways which people want to be loved. Everyone has about 2-3 top ways by which they want to be loved and we should love them that way.
The languages are; receiving gifts, Quality time, Words of affirmation, Acts of service and Physical touch. I actually discovered that I am a words of affirmation and physical touch type of person which actually makes sense because I am very independent so quality time, acts of service and receiving gifts doesn’t really move me (dear future husband, I’m not saying I am opposed to all of these). As a writer, words of affirmation is very big for me, because I express myself mostly through words and because I am hopeful romantic yes hopeful! I am big on physical touch of course in a non-sexual way (at least not until I get married).
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Now one day I was thinking, does God have any love language? Of course He does! He is love. And it only makes sense that He is all 4 of them except the physical touch, because we can’t see Him, hence we can’t feel Him in a sense. Wouldn’t it be weird if we discovered that He was only one out of the list? My curious mind got me thinking on how I would justify God speaking these languages and the Holy Spirit revealed to me exactly how. Here goes!
Initially I thought to myself, is God big on receiving gifts? I mean doesn’t He own everything? Then I remembered our tithes and offerings. I remember how He says in Malachi 3:10, that we should bring our gifts into His store house. I also remember how He said our gifts will make room for us. It blesses Him even more when we give to others as well. God gets a lot of joy from knowing His children are cheerful givers. And guess what? He gives the best gifts. God is very giving by the nature of His character and wants His children to be givers as well, not just receivers.
God loves it when we give Him our undivided attention. That way, He has us all to Himself and He gets to pour into us. He reveals another facet of Himself to us during this intimate time, because there are some things that are reserved for us when we spend time with Him in that secret place.
Words of Affirmation
This is my favorite one! God loves words, hello! Have you read the bible? God is the biggest romantic ever. Sometimes when I read certain things in the bible like “I have loved you with an everlasting love” (Jeremiah 31:3), it blows me away! Ed Sheeran has nothing on God (I still love you Ed). The same way He blesses us with His words, He wants that back in return. He loves it when we extol Him, when we praise Him (Psalm 22:3), when we tell Him how much we love Him, when we worship Him with our words! It opens up His heart towards us. It builds a level of trust between us and God that He actually reveals what is on His heart for us. God is such a lover.
Acts of Service
God also loves it when we do something for others, especially when they cannot return that gesture. Matthew 25:37-40 (NKJV) says “Then the righteous will answer Him saying, Lord when did we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink? When did we see You a stranger and take you in, or naked and clothe You? Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come to You? And the King will answer and say to them, assuredly, I say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these My brethren (brothers), you did it to Me” Phew! This is very challenging. When we go out on the streets and provide for those who can’t provide for themselves, then we truly love God.
Fun Fact: Did you know that a godly marriage between a man and a woman is a depiction of the kind of love God has for us? There is no greater love than this. That is why He commands men, to love their wives the way Christ loves the church and gave up His life for her. And God doesn’t expect anything from us that He isn’t to begin with. It’s such a crazy kind of love!
I hope I was able to shed some light on the love of God through this post. So now y’all know how God loves to be loved, what will you do differently to show Him that you love Him, this week? Comment below and have a blessed week ahead!