Written by Evi Idoghor, Creator of Letstalknationblog.com
Marriage is usually the proposed next step when two consenting adults have been in some form of a committed relationship over a period of time. The people around you; your friends, family, co-workers, and the likes, expect you and your lover to take your relationship to the next level (marriage) without really thinking things through in the sense that if both parties are ready, truly understand its essence and why this sacrosanct union was created by God.
The Purpose of Marriage
In the beginning, God told Adam and Eve to multiply and fill the earth and also have dominion over everything that was in it (Genesis 1:28). There was a purpose for Adam and Eve coming together. It was not because Adam was an old man and Eve was tired of always being the bridesmaid and never the bride; God had a specific assignment for the two of them coming together.
I don’t think a lot has changed since creation; God still has specific assignments for couples that He decides to bring together. Marriage is about purpose, it is about building a legacy that will outlast generations. It is about raising godly sons and daughters, who will carry on with the work you already began.
I am reminded of the relationship God had with David and Solomon, both men were passionate about building God’s temple. God assigned David to provide the materials for the temple, while Solomon was commiserated to oversee the building project after David passed away. So, we can deduce that your marriage is not just about you and your spouse and the love you have, but is also about what the children you bring into this world will do after you are long gone. Hence it is wise that you choose well or better still, let God do the choosing.
When I think about marriage, I think about the purpose God has for me and my one-day spouse, and what we will accomplish together. I think about children; the lovely arrows that God has already set apart to accomplish great things for His kingdom. I think about legacy; what would we leave behind for generations to come. I think about the body of Christ; how we will be of service to God.
I think about having a best friend, hopefully for life; it is a joyful thing to always have someone in your corner who will cheer you on and encourage you to do the things you might be afraid to do. I think about Netflix and chilling! Because it has been a long time! You know these days, as a Child of God, you can’t allow members of the opposite sex cuddle up next to you in bed, while watching your favorite movies or television shows when you haven’t said your I dos!
I am also not ignorant of the fact that tough times will present themselves; there will be times when your relationships might be tested beyond your capacity to bear with the circumstance, that is when you remember why you got together to begin with. And it will be difficult to break apart if you have a vision attached to your union.
Hence, you shouldn’t just join your life with anybody; marriage is way beyond just two people seemingly in love and deciding to tie the knot; it’s deeper than that. Don’t get me wrong I also look forward to celebrating God’s love on that day with friends and family, I love a good reason for family and close friends coming together and partying (good partying that is) like it's 1999!
However, we shouldn’t lose the essence of what marriage really is. Take your time to choose well because if done properly, you just might be stuck with that person for the rest of your life!
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