4 Thoughts to help you get your Self-Esteem back on track
“Mirror mirror, mirror on the wall, telling those lies, pointing out your flaws, that isn’t who you are, there’s more to who you are.” Music lyrics come to me naturally when I am doing my writing. And what is more amazing is that it always fits within the box, of the message I am trying to pass across. The above lyrics is gotten from the hit song (8.4M views on YouTube) from the Christian rock band; For King & Country, titled Priceless. The song encourages people dealing with self-esteem issues.
In today’s world, it is very easy for you to have low self-esteem. A lack of self-esteem may be as a result of many things like; joblessness, singleness, and being over-weight. All these things and more can contribute to a person’s low self-esteem and lack of self-worth so to speak. When a person is suffering from this, it becomes very easy for them to settle for a job or a relationship or even a friendship.
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People with low self-esteem; take whatever is being presented to them, because they are afraid that nothing better would come their way. And that is the truth because we all attract the people and the circumstances we mirror. Today's article is going to teach you how to value yourself and build back your self-esteem if you don't have any.
Self-esteem is defined as the confidence in one’s own worth or abilities, according to Google. I once suffered from self-esteem issues. Mine was tied to me being single and having no job/purpose as a young woman in her mid-twenties. I graduated college, with the possibilities of job opportunities, but with nothing ever panning out in the end. Since the job thing was slow in coming, I decided to rack my brain about ideas I could bring to life, that will impact the society and also sustain my existence, but I couldn’t come up with any. Then I sank into somewhat of a depression.
Every peer that I met knew exactly what they wanted to do in life, they had jobs with lucrative companies and I always felt less than whenever I hung out with them. I dreaded the question “so what do you do?” I think this also affected my dating life because I felt I had nothing to bring to the table.
I always went back to the past in my mind—maybe if I had studied nursing or something else, I would have landed a job by now and become independent. Then I realized I had no power to change the past, but if I wanted to change my future, I had to embrace the life God had for me. We have to realize that God makes no failures. For each creature He has ever made, there is a purpose. And as humans (His best work yet, I like to think—haha) we have the responsibility to find out what our purpose here on earth is.
Here are some points to help you get your self-esteem back on track
You are not defined by your past or present circumstance; Many people have what I like to call a tango relationship with their past. They keep going back and forth with what happened to them years ago, carrying that guilt and shame with them. Or maybe it is a present situation they are struggling with, and don’t see any way out, then they turn into a recluse and give up completely on life.
No one will want to hang around people with a woe is me mentality. Life happens to the best of us, and people are more attracted to those who don’t let their circumstances deter them. People who know how to pick themselves up and try again. People who are having a hard time with this should adopt this Paul's mentality in the Bible that can be found in Philippians 3:13; “No dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it yet, but I focus on this one thing; forgetting the past, and looking forward to what lies ahead(the future).”
You are fearfully and wonderfully made, God’s masterpiece; how many of you still deal with body image issues? My hands are totally up on this one. Social media has helped glorify a lot of things. I can't sign in on my page, without finding out about one fitness junkie or a woman who just gave birth and has gotten her abs back in 3 days! Especially if you are single, you may begin to think that you haven’t landed the man or woman of your dreams, because of your physical appearance.
That is a lie from the enemy, the Bible says that “physical training is good, but training for godliness is much better, promising benefits in this life and in the life to come.” I love this scripture for many reasons, but also because I hate working out (haha). I hope you get the picture the Bible is trying to paint here, your confidence and self-worth shouldn’t come from the way you look, it should come from how wonderful God created you to be. Look at this excerpt from the Book of Psalms (139), by King David below (who put it so beautifully).
“You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother's womb. Thank you for making me so complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in seclusion.
As I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God? They cannot be numbered.”
From this you can see how God made you with intentionality; He thought out every single intricate detail of your life before you came to be. Because of this, you should never let anyone, not even you, doubt how priceless you are.
”I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart, and appointed you as my prophet to the nations." God
You were appointed by God before you were ever created; God has a plan and purpose for everyone, which was predestined before we ever got on this planet. We should never let our self-esteem or worth be tied to a job title or description. I know we all want that title that makes us feel important so we can update our LinkedIn page, so maybe people can see us differently. But there is more to life than that.
True fulfillment is found, when we are doing what we know we were created to do. And that comes with ease, it may not be smooth sailing, but you will have so much joy doing what God has called you to do. So if you haven’t figured out your purpose yet, spend time with Him, and ask Him to reveal it to you, and He will lead you to where you should be.
Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit? Who is in you, whom you received from God? Paul, 1 Corinthians 6:19
You were bought at a price; Remember this before you go joining your life with people who aren’t worth it, that Jesus died and rose again just for you. The Bible says that because of this act of love, we are no longer our own. We now belong to God. If any man or woman is luring you into an illicit relationship, and you are considering it just because you feel lonely, remember that you belong to God and your body is now a temple and should be treasured as such.
This point reminds me of all these great temples around the world, there is one in particular, that people visit a lot in Thailand. When you get to those temples, you don’t go in there with shoes, you walk in quietly, and you greet the monks you find there with respect. Those places are usually neat and well taken care of. The people of that land value their temple, and even when foreigners come around, they are led to honor the place as well. That is how we should be with our bodies; we should first honor it, and teach others to also treat it with respect.
God loves us so much, and that should be the foundation that our self-worth flows from, do not let past or present circumstances steal your self-worth away. Focus on the future, and build yourself in the process, and remember that you were fearfully and wonderfully made. So let that confidence lead you throughout your life.
I hope you enjoyed this inspirational article today. Have you ever struggled with your self-esteem? Do you have a hard time making people treat you the way you should be treated? Have you ever thought about self-esteem from the angle of the word of God? Leave your thoughts below, and always remember to like, share and subscribe to never miss an update. I love y’all for reading.