How about getting married to a US citizen?
There was this guy my aunt tried hooking me up with a year prior to all of this happening but I was not interested in a romantic relationship with him. He was a very nice guy no doubt and we became friends in the process but as far as marriage was concerned, I did not want to marry him.
So he was always there for me and when I opened up to him about what happened, he felt so bad. Immediately he wanted to marry me, at least to get me out of the mess and bring me to Dallas to be with him. He said—“I will go talk to my lawyers this week after I return from my trip and see how we can sort you out.”
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I appreciated the gesture, and in my mind since I knew the only option out of my mess was marriage, I wrestled with the fact. “So I go just marry like that?” I mean he was a really nice person and maybe I was going to have a nice life with him, who knows? Even if I did not want it to seem like because I was in a bind that was why I wanted to start something with him, although he was the one pushing for it. So I decided to consult my God on the matter. (Omg! he reads my blog and he is going to find out all of this! Anyway, we have to tell this story complete.)
A prayer to God
“Dear God, thank you for everything, even for the things that I do not understand. Your word says in everything that we should be thankful, so yeah, thank you. Ehen, Jidekene has been on my case now for over a year and I have not been giving him face. Now I do not know oh, if he is the one you want to use to bring me out of this mess. Please if he is the one for me let me know, so I can open my heart up to him.
But if he isn’t the one for me, let him not contact me again. In Jesus name, amen.”
Then that night I had a dream, you guys know me and this dream matter now, that is how God speaks to me. I saw a completely different guy oh—fine, tall, brown skin, handsome! There was no confusing him with Jide. (Jide this is not to knock you or anything of that sort.)
After my premonition that night, I did not hear from him again in that season. And Jide wasn’t the type to play all those games, so I knew that was the sign I was looking for from God; he wasn’t who God wanted me to join my life with. Slowly I had to get used to the reality of things. Just remove America from your mind, I will often tell myself. Try and make a life for yourself here, after all this is what your mother wanted.
So what’s next?
I hated this question, I dreaded this question! People kept on asking me over and over again what my plans were and honestly I did not know. Let me settle down first and think about my life before you guys start pestering me. I have a surgery ahead of me, at least let me overcome that hurdle. I heard how people lost their lives on the operating table and fear gripped me.
As much as I was able to chest whatever I was facing, deep within me I felt like a failure.
Then I turned to God again. “God,” I said to Him one day, “I don’t know how I am going to get through this—the deportation, the surgery and my things still hanging in America and I don't even know whatever the future holds, but I know you have a plan, like you promised.”
I had no other option left than to trust Him again; you can’t stay mad and away from God for too long. I was also left pondering the words—“And when you go, you shall not leave empty-handed.” But I left empty-handed; my bank account was drained, I did not leave with a man or a green-card. So what was He referring to? Only Him knows!
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About The Author: Evi Idoghor is a Christian, writer, and content creator on Letstalknationblog.com. She is a chemical engineering graduate from the University of Louisiana at Lafayette. Consumed by her love for writing and desire to effect change, she launched her online platform––Let’s Talk Nation––to tap into her creativity and start meaningful conversations that would make a difference around the world.
Most of her writing has been influenced by her time spent in America, where she lived for about 11 years. Also, she lived in Nigeria and South Korea and currently loves traveling the world while learning about other fascinating cultures. You can find her on all social media platforms with @eviidoghor.