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Wisdom Weekly-Identity Crisis (2)

Updated: Mar 7, 2020

A year ago, I wrote an article titled—Identity Crisis. That article was born out of many stories I became privy to, about people changing their genders or identifying as something they were not physically. Unfortunately gender dysphoria is something that is not going away anytime soon. What is truly heart breaking is that young kids have been sucked into this dysfunction, and are now being aided to make life-changing decisions at a young age.

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Just a few weeks ago, basket baller Dwayne Wade and his wife made headlines when they revealed that their 12 year old son, now identified as a female. “I don’t think I’m gay,” he shared about his son, revealing his identity to him. “This is how I identify myself. This is my gender identity. I identify as a young lady. I think I’m a straight trans (girl) because I like boys.”

This statement alone is the most confusing thing that I have come across this year. It is so sad that such words are coming out of the mouth of a child. That little boy is 12 for crying out loud! He doesn’t even know what he wants to become in life. What he loves today can change tomorrow. He is a child and should have no business carrying that burden at such a young age. From what I hear, he is going to start transitioning soon. What then do you tell the kids in his class, that he who was a boy is no longer a boy but a girl?


Since the beginning of time the enemy has always tried to pervert everything God created, he hates God and the plans He (God) has put in place so much that he tries to sabotage everything. He goes against everything that is natural. But because we have the word of God available to us, we don’t have to sit in darkness any longer. God’s word is light and exposes all the lies of the enemy.

The bible says in 2 Corinthians 4:3-4—“If the Good News we preach is hidden behind a veil, it is hidden only from people who are perishing. Satan, who is the god of this world, has blinded the minds of those who don’t believe. They are unable to see the glorious light of the Good News. They don’t understand this message about the glory of Christ, who is the exact likeness of God.”

The devil has blinded those who don’t believe the things of the gospel. Matthew 19:4 says—“Haven’t you read the scriptures? Jesus replied—“They record that from the beginning God made them male and female.” There is actually no in between. A lot of people these days are also identifying as non-binary meaning that they don’t identify as any gender. Talented artist—Sam Smith came out as non-binary not too long ago.

This is disturbing. If you live abroad in the United States or United Kingdom for instance, you could get into trouble for mis-gendering a person. Why is the responsibility now put on innocent people, to carry the burden by trying to figure out if someone were male or female? What is even worse is that children are being exposed to all of this mess!

Dear Parent, you have a part to play in this

There is a possibility that Dwayne's child must have been exposed to certain things that he shouldn’t have been at that age. Maybe the type of entertainment he watches at home, or maybe seeing setting lifestyles unfold in front of him, all of that might have influenced his decision to want to identify as a female. (As for now we don’t know, this is only an opinion.)

Because let’s face it with shows like modern family, trans-parent, and the countless shows and movies that promote such agendas, those things slowly seep into your heart and take their roots there. Even as an adult, I have to watch what I watch. As a parent of impressionable children, you have to watch what your kids watch and constantly have conversations with them about certain issues.

The world is going crazy every day; the responsibility falls on the parent to protect their child, and if you are Christian, raise them up in the ways of the Lord. That is the safest way. This little boy can grow up one day and fault his parents for actually not taking their stance as a parent. If he were older, it will be a different ball game, not that it would have made it right, but at a more matured age, you become responsible for your actions.

Dear parent, if your child came to you at 12 and said they identify as a 30 year old woman or man, and hence want to get married to an adult around that age, would you let them? Certainly not! You will definitely know there is a problem somewhere, which needs to be handled as soon as possible. Then why is going from one gender to the next, seem normal? Don’t you see the disconnect? It is just as insane. Where do we then draw the line? Do we accept everyone’s dysfunction? What would the society then look like?


Loving and supporting someone doesn’t mean that we have to accept what they bring to the table. I can love and support you by telling you want you are about to do isn’t the right thing. As a parent I am sure it is a hard pill to swallow if your child comes to you with this type of revelation. But you can show them your unconditional love and support by steering them in the right direction even if they kickback against it. At the end of the day, all of this depends on what your belief system is.

True Identity

Our true identity is only found in Christ Jesus; Jesus created all of us with intention and for a specific purpose. Your gender, size, where you are from, height, mannerisms and so on were all given to you for a specific purpose. God knows exactly who you are. Jeremiah 1:5 says—“Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you.” You are not a mistake; your gender is definitely not a mistake, because God makes no mistakes. And He had plans for you, before your parents even conceived you.

If He wanted you to be the opposite, He would have made you that way. Nothing stopped Him from doing so. If you are a particular gender, He created you that way for a purpose. The enemy knows this all too well, that is why he works tirelessly to confuse you; gender dysphoria is just a fancy word for confusion. And God isn't the author of confusion.

The bible says that the enemy goes around like a roaring lion (or like the Nigerian Police) seeking whom to devour (1 Peter 5:8). If your home isn’t protected by the blood of Jesus, then you will become susceptible to the enemy’s attacks. Don’t let him deceive you, and parents don’t let him come for your kids! God made you the parents of those precious little ones to protect them just as He protects you.

If you need prayers in this area, you can email us at, and someone will be happy to pray with and for you. God loves you; you were created in His image, do not let the world or enemy tell you otherwise.

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About The Author: Evi Idoghor is a Christian, writer and content creator on She is a chemical engineering graduate from the University of Louisiana at Lafayette. Consumed by her love for writing and desire to effect change, she launched her online platform––Let’s Talk Nation––to tap into her creativity and start meaningful conversations that would make a difference around the world.

Most of her writing has been influenced by her time spent in America, where she lived for about 11 years. Also, she lived in Nigeria and South Korea and currently loves traveling the world while learning about other fascinating cultures. You can find her on all social media platforms with @eviidoghor.

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