It had been 48 hours with no light and my generator would not start. No matter how hard I cranked it, there was no response to follow. Anyone living in Nigeria knows that we have fallen upon hard times. With the recent elimination of fuel subsidies and the lack of salary increment, any unanticipated expense feels like a thorn in the flesh. As such, I kept cranking and praying - praying then cranking some more, but to no avail. Finally, I caved and got the repairers to come over - holding my breath that whatever the issue was wouldn’t cost me a lot of money.
While the repairman worked outside, I sat back and relaxed on my living room couch. "I'll take a break and mindlessly scroll through Instagram." I told myself. So I started walking down Instagram streets. I'd gone through three posts before coming across the one from @bellanaijaweddings.
Many years ago, I was an avid reader of bellanaija.com. It became routine for me to read all those couples' love stories that were published and wish that one day my own would be shared as well. I kept up with them as the world shifted more towards social media. When I saw a couple with a deep love story rather than one conjured up for the "gram," I reveled in it and went through the comments, occasionally leaving a comment if I felt so led.
So, when I saw the chocolate-skinned man grinning from ear to ear, next to his bride on this particular day, my heart skipped a beat because I immediately recognized who he was. I mean, how could I not?
We had a breakup so terrible; one littered with countless betrayals which ultimately drove me to seek solace in Christ. What made this discovery more interesting was that I had recently recounted my experience on a short story series I wrote on my blog titled - twists and thorns. There was also a video series to go along with the story of the same title on Instagram.
My readers/listeners were eager to learn what he was up to, whether he ended up with the other woman, and a variety of other details. I honestly didn't know the answers to all of those questions; after all, it had been 9 years since we had last spoken.
Seeing him on the famous wedding page after all these years (although a little shaken) hasn’t worried me about where I am - even though still single at almost 35. The journey to Christ has been far more rewarding. Finding myself worth in him, and being content with the life he has me living now is not something I would trade for being in a relationship where I had lost myself.
This post is for those who are distressed when their ex moves on before them; it is nothing to lose sleep over (even if no one is looking your way). Remember, the one who created you has his sights set on you. After being driven to the wilderness by her mistress, Hagar (Sarah and Abraham's servant) was unsure of her next steps in life. She was also involved in the conflict between her and her mistress, but that didn't matter to God when he revealed himself to her in the midst of her turmoil. She responded to God's kindness by saying, "You are the God who sees me." (Genesis 16:13).
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